Posts Tagged ‘Oratory’

So you’re passionate about your business. So what?

Yawning2 150x150 So youre passionate about your business. So what?

Being passionate about your business is a good thing – right?

I know lots of people who are passionate about their business. It’s a good thing and no more than I would expect from the people I mix with, given that most of them have chosen to do what they do.

However, I am constantly puzzled by the need that many folk have to “tell”  me they are passionate about their business. Maybe you are one of them.

Telling me you’re passionate doesn’t do a thing for me.

Would you tell me you are funny in order to make me laugh or say that you’re sexy in the hope I might introduce you to a friend looking for a fling? Would you start a business conversation by telling me you’re honest?

No? I thought not. So why tell me you’re passionate about what you do?

Do you think by declaring your passion that I’m more likely to buy from you?

Here’s a newsflash. I’m not – and neither is anyone else.

I don’t care how you feel about your business

Actually I don’t care how you feel about your business. You could be bored to death by it but if you supply what I want at the right price I’ll buy it.

I understand the whole thing about buying decisions being emotional ones but if I’m the buyer, its my emotions that are in the equation not yours. How you or your product make me feel is important but will your declaration for being passionate about supplying me affect my emotions?

No – and here’s why:

I’ve been asking this question for a while and this is one of the best answers I’ve had so far. Its from Jeremy Marchant  http://www.emotionalintelligenceatwork.com I’ve edited his words slightly for context.

Jeremy says: “I think it is tendentious, at best, to suggest that (potential customers) will be convinced that you can supply what they need just because you have told them how passionate you are about supplying it.

Yes, the decision to buy is an emotional one, not a rational one. That’s because all decisions are made emotionally, not rationally.

But it is a mistake to believe that, if you tell me how you are feeling, that is a conversation at a feelings level, at the level of emotions. It’s not. It is a rational, “thinking” conversation.

A description of how passionate you are about what you do is not an emotional experience for the listener. It is a factual monologue, which will have the inevitable consequence of keeping them in their thinking mode, NOT getting them into their feelings – in other words it precisely does what you don’t want it to do!

The way out of this impasse is … to convey your passion by HOW you talk. How you are. “

In other words, its better to let people see and feel how passionate you are than to tell them!

Getting people to connect with you on an emotional level is the key to any transaction but simply telling them how you feel doesn’t work.

Don’t tell me – show me

If you want me to buy from you, stop telling me you are passionate and start demonstrating your conviction that you have the solution to my needs.

Power – the essential ingredient for success




web 300x199 Power   the essential ingredient for success

Photo by Adam Hawkins http://anodizeproductions.com













At our monthly events we’re following the Steps to Success as outlined by Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich.

The next topic is ‘Power’ and the speaker is highlighting the power of the human voice -leadership – oratory – persuasiveness etc.

I asked for ideas and thoughts on the positive uses of power in business and especially how it can be used to create harmony and achieve common goals.

This is the thought provoking reply I got from David Bridge, Director at Mayfair Coaching Practice

“There is much complexity behind Power, but I like to look at the simple opposite – compliance. Why do people comply with Power? What motivates people to allow others Power? It might be the promise of riches, a share in the Power, or meeting other personal needs. It might be part of a plot to form a coup to wrest Power from the incumbent. All forms of personal feelings and politics are involved.
From a business point of view I find understanding of compliance far more rewarding than understanding of Power. From the reasons for compliance you learn about personal motivation and reward.
You have Power because other people allow it, expecting you to use it for their benefit. Believing that you created the Power for yourself is a well defined route to failure.
Finally, your ambition for harmony and common goals also needs to be interpreted from personal motivation. No matter how common the goals may look to a leader, each individual will interpret them in a personal way which can only be discovered by constant communication; i.e. listening.”

A further thought:

“I have a 16 year old Son – 70 years ago he would have been called up (as my Father was).

Would you countenance the sacrifice of your teenage son to resolve the threat faced by Winston Churchill?
Would you have volunteered to do the same for Tony Blair?
(not precise comparisons – the first was conscription, but you can rewrite the rules to make a point)
Which of these two Prime Ministers would you consider to have been the more avaricious for Power? Who truly had compliance?”
Director at Mayfair Coaching Practice

See the details of our event on Power
Join the discussion: What are the positive uses of power in business? What examples do you have of its use in creating success?
Don’t miss a thing!
To get new posts delivered by email add your details below. You can also get your FREE copy of The A-Z of Business Success and notifications of events and workshops by clicking the links below. You can unsubscribe from any list at any time.



Follow me on Twitter
View my profile on LinkedIn
Subscribe by RSS
Ann Hawkins
img
Not letting people settle for less...
In 104 circles Add Widget
oX3t0KH