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If you have a burning desire to be, do or have something and you’re not working towards it, chances are you’re being held back by a lack of self belief.
Most successful people acknowledge that self belief plays a big part in their achievements. At a very superficial level this makes a lot of sense for why would anyone attempt something if they didn’t think they could succeed?
However, if this thought is carried to its logical conclusion it would mean that successful people never take any risks and this is clearly not the case.
Some of the most successful people I’ve met are those who, at some point in their lives, lost everything. They put their success down to the fact that they already know that if things go wrong, they will cope and come back to fight another day.
And yet, through lack of self belief, most people consistently choose unhappiness over uncertainty. You can prove this for yourself. Just ask everyone you know (including yourself)
“What would you do if you knew without doubt that you could not fail?”
Then ask, “So why aren’t you doing it?” The answer is always, “Because it MIGHT fail”
We do less than we could because what we fear most is our imagined failure.
People who have experienced real failure don’t fear it anymore. They know it won’t kill them.
There’s a lot of talk about what we learn from failure, but the real lesson, the most important lesson, is self belief. When there’s nothing else left – we learn to believe in ourselves.
If we only get confidence and self belief from our successes, we are out of luck when we fail. We need to get resilience and confidence from both success and failure.
The worst thing is letting this fear get the best of us and not even giving something a good shot and then ending up in between – not achieving what we want yet not completely failing, as we didn’t really try.
“We’re hoping to succeed; we’re okay with failure. We just don’t want to land in between.”
Go back to your own definition of success: When you are successful how will you ‘be’? What will you do? What will you have?
What is stopping you from being, doing and having what you want? Whatever it is, imagine for a moment that you’ve been given the wrong information; that the messages that imply that your endeavours will result in failure were really meant for someone else and that you should have got the one that said, “It doesn’t matter whether you succeed or fail, what matters is that you try. No harm will come to you from trying.”
Now go and make a start.
Whether you prefer the ubiquitous slogan “Just do it” or the more esoteric quote sometimes attributed to Goethe “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it”, please know that self belief grows from experiencing both success and failure and, safe in this knowledge, you can now go and build your self belief, your self confidence, your self esteem and your chances of success.
This is part two of our Steps to Success Series. A discussion on the subject can be found on LinkedIn here: http://lnkd.in/CpFtke Details of all the 12 Steps to Success can be found here
I’m stunned that such a larger than life man has just gone from our lives.
Clive was instrumental in me starting The Inspired Group (although he would always deny it) and his influence over the last six years has been at the root of what it has become.
I and thousands of other people whose lives he touched will miss him a lot.
RIP Clive. x
Clive’s Facebook page is where lots of people are leaving a tribute. If he touched your life you might want to add yours http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=563837159
This is my tribute to him:
Clive was an impressive guy.
His achievements were very impressive and his performances as a professional speaker were always impressive.
However, there are quite a few people out there who have done similar things and speak about them very well. What makes Clive different is that he walked his talk, not just for the sake of being able to tell a good story but in everything he did and said even when it got really uncomfortable.
There are lots of people who let people believe that they agree with things they don’t believe in or just keep quiet rather than rock the boat but that wasn’t Clive’s style.
If you asked for his opinion you’d get it (and he’d tell you that it was HIS opinion, HIS truth and no-one else’s)
If you said something he disagreed with, he’d tell you why. He was not a political animal, he was a genuine one. He didn’t play power games and this meant that some people didn’t like him.
In the six years I knew him, I saw him interact with a wide variety of people. Some were charmed, some were changed and some were challenged – no one was untouched and this was his strength and his value in other people’s lives.
There was no condescension, holier than thou message in Clive’s talks. He exposed himself as a fallible human being who made mistakes and was willing to make changes and was all the more inspiring because of it. He invited people to hold a mirror up to themselves and if they didn’t like what they saw, to have the courage to make changes for themselves. This is why Clive will be talked about for a long time to come and why his impact on thousands of people will be a lasting one.
If ever a man knew how to do the right thing rather than the done thing it was Clive.
If any of us can look back our lives and be as proud of our achievements as Clive can be of his we’ll know we’ve lived well.
I’ll miss him.
Oh dear, poor you. You’re having a hard time, your business isn’t going well and life is so unfair and you have a lot to deal with.
This sympathy is free, there’s no obligation to return it and it’s offered in all sincerity. I’d offer you some tea to go with it but I can see you’ve already had lots.
Now, how do you feel? Understood and supported? Good.
But here you are still feeling bad and I can see that every time someone asks you how things are you feel that pain all over again. Could it be that the more you focus on your difficulties the worse you make yourself feel?
Anyway, that’s more than enough sympathy now. What you need is some encouragement.
Your business doesn’t have any emotions. It responds to action. Take the right actions and your business will flourish. Expect it to sit and wait for you to ‘feel like’ taking action and it won’t.
If fear has you in its frozen grip, sympathy won’t get you out of it. Even the tea won’t melt it. Only action has any effect.
If you can’t think straight, DO something.
Consistent action, doing the right things at the right time, is what gets us what we want but until you figure out the right things to do, do something anyway. Action has a 50% chance of getting the right result. Inaction has none.
I’m sorry you’re feeling bad. Really I am but what are you DOING to change things?